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5 Lessons from the Bible

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Lois and Eunice: How do leaders grow their teams?

Remembering your tears, I long to see you so that I may be filled with joy. I recall your sincere faith that first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and now, I am convinced, is in you also. 2 Timothy 1:4-5

Timothy first being discipled by his mother and grandmother and then by Paul is one of the most riveting mentoring relationships in Scripture. It clearly shows us the win of family discipleship followed by the value of strategic ministry discipleship.

Beautiful, isn’t it? But here’s the problem: far too many of us view mentoring as icing on the cake instead of as a core part of our ministries. The tyranny of the urgent pushes mentoring to the margins as “wishful thinking” or “idealistic.” Who has time for that?!?!

While not many of us have extra time to spend mentoring, it is perhaps the one ministry activity that we cannot afford not to do. Raising up future leaders is that important. Right now there are leaders on your team who have the potential to step up as leaders, but they need to be mentored. At the same time, there are people in your church who may not be on your team now, but who also have leadership potential that needs to be developed. Not many things position a ministry for the long haul as mentoring does. That’s why it’s so important. You can build the best kids ministry around, but if you don’t raise up leaders to keep it going after you, you haven’t built it to last.

Here are five tips for developing and maintaining a mentoring culture in your ministry:

  • Be selective. This may feel completely wrong at first. We usually want to include everyone and treat everyone the same—fairly. But that’s the problem. The same is not fair because people are different. God has wired us differently and that’s a good thing. Not everyone has the same abilities, aptitude, skills, and interests. So it would be wrong to treat everyone the same way under the guise of fairness. When it comes to mentoring, look for people who you feel have the greatest leadership aptitude and then build into them. Sure this means that you will spend more time, energy, and resources on these people—and that may not feel “fair”—but remember, even Jesus had an inner circle who were treated differently from others.
  • Be realistic. Mentoring does take time. There is no way around that. You will have to carve out regular time—time you cannot spend on other ministry tasks. Mentoring isn’t always glamorous as well. It’s not always us pouring wisdom into willing sponges. Sometimes the people we mentor won’t listen. Sometimes they will do silly things. Mentoring can be challenging and frustrating at times. Know that going into it.
  • Have an intentional plan. Establish a mentoring plan—don’t wing it. Think about how long the mentoring will last, what you want to accomplish, how often you will meet, what you want to read together, what you want to discuss together, what you want that person to observe you doing and what you want to observe that person doing. Develop the plan ahead of time and share it with the person so she knows to what she is committing.
  • Gradually release. Just like in delegating, gradually increase the person’s responsibility in ministry. Give them opportunities to own more of the ministry—even if it is just for the short-term during the mentoring process. A big part of learning is doing.

Multiply the mentoring. When someone completed the mentoring process, consider whether he is able to mentor others—whether in a full-blown mentoring relationship like he just completed or a scaled-down version of more targeted mentoring. Make it a goal to mentor future mentors.

Brian Dembowczyk is the managing editor for The Gospel Project. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

Kids Ministry, Leadership

5 Leadership Lessons from the Bible: Moses

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Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said. So Moses chose able men from all Israel and made them leaders over the people as commanders of thousands, hundreds, fifties, and tens. They judged the people at all times; they would bring the hard cases to Moses, but they would judge every minor case themselves. Exodus 18:24-26

I have to admit that I’m a lot like Moses. No, not because I have a great shepherd’s staff or grew up as a prince in Egypt, but because like him, I can tend to make the mistake of trying to do everything myself. There’s a good chance that you can relate too because this is a common trap into which leaders fall.

But let’s be clear about this—we are called “leaders” not “doers” for a reason. If we as leaders are doing everything ourselves, we are not only going to burn ourselves out, but we are also failing to give our teams the opportunity to grow and be used by God, and we are limiting the ministries our kids and parents experience.

That is what Jethro saw Moses doing, so thankfully, he called Moses out for it. Jethro told Moses it wasn’t right for him to do all the judging. It was wearing him out and slowing the people down. There were plenty of good men who could partner with Moses to judge the people’s disputes. So Jethro challenged Moses to use them—to delegate the work.  

We have to ask what Jethro would say to us if he saw how we ran our ministries. Would he give us the same advice—delegate more? Even if you are more of a collaborative leader, there is probably still more room for you to delegate. Here are five tips for delegating in a way that maximizes your team:

  1. Know what you need to do. Let’s just say this up front—while there are many tasks you can delegate and several that you should delegate, there are also some that you cannot delegate. There are going to be certain parts of your ministry that you simply cannot, and should not, pass to someone else. Start with making a list of these tasks. Know what you cannot give away and why.
  2. Make a stop doing list. Now go to the other end of the spectrum—the opposite of what you have to do. What tasks do you need to stop doing no matter what? We all have them. Some are big, others are small. Some we can delegate to others, some we will just have to let die. Think about the time and energy drainers in your schedule. Think about the tasks you do that show little to no benefit. Make a list of these and plan how and when you will stop each. You will probably need to repeat this regularly as tasks creep back into your schedule.
  3. Delegate the right tasks to the right people on your team. In between your list of what you have to do and what you need to stop doing lives a large number of tasks that you can give to others. But that doesn’t mean you necessarily should. Make a chart with all of the tasks and the skills and gifts needed for each on one side and your team members and their skills on gifts on the other side. Now look for the matches. A wise leader will delegate the right tasks to the right people and set them, and more importantly the ministry, up for success. Delegating the wrong task to the wrong people is a recipe for frustration and hindered ministry.
  4. Let other people own what you give them but don’t abandon them. If you’ve ever driven a stick-shift car, you know how important it is to learn how to balance the clutch and accelerator pedal. Pressing too hard on one or the other will cause your car to jerk and sputter. Making a smooth transition between the two is essential. The same is true of delegating. Don’t dump off the task immediately—give the person time to learn it. Coach them as you slowly release it to them. But at the same time, make sure you do that—release the task to them. Don’t pseudo-delegate. Give it over to your team member but let them know you are always available to them if they need you.
  5. Strive for redundancy. As you delegate tasks to your team members, be sure to think of the long-term. Seek to delegate each task to more than one team member to minimize ministry bottlenecks—where only one person knows how to do something—which can choke and even halt ministry. A good goal is for multiple team members to be able to do every task in your ministry. That maximizes your team’s effectiveness and also positions your ministry to flourish even as leaders take vacations, get sick, or leave your team.

Next time — Lois and Eunice: How do leaders grow their teams?

Brian Dembowczyk is the managing editor for The Gospel Project. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

Bible Study, Kids Ministry, Leadership

5 Leadership Lessons from the Bible: Nehemiah

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Nehemiah: How do leaders think?

After I arrived in Jerusalem and had been there three days, I got up at night and took a few men with me. I didn’t tell anyone what my God had laid on my heart to do for Jerusalem. The only animal I took was the one I was riding. Nehemiah 2:11-12

Nehemiah was the rare leader who was simultaneously a visionary and an organizer. Usually, leaders are one or the other. Visionaries tend to be so lofty and big picture in their thinking that they struggle with implementation and execution. At the same time, organizers tend to be so detail-oriented and grounded in their thinking that they struggle to dream.

For most leaders, the goal is to excel in one area and be competent in the other. But every once in awhile there are leaders who excels in both—like Nehemiah. I love how the Book of Nehemiah captures Nehemiah’s heart and how his vision and planning intertwined so tightly. We don’t just see a leader who had a vision for a rebuilt city, but he thought strategically, and organized the people to build portions of the wall by family, knowing that families will work with more conviction and effectiveness together.

Nehemiah looked at the task God had given him, pondered the solution, and motivated the people to work together even in the midst of opposition. That’s leadership! Here are five tips for thinking strategically in our ministries:  

  • Read leadership books. One of the best ways to learn to think like a leader is to read books written by leaders. There are many good leadership books written from a Christian perspective, but don’t limit yourself to those. There are fantastic leadership books that you can learn so much from, even if they are not written from a biblical worldview. Be discerning when you read these (as you should be with Christian leadership books too), but don’t be afraid to read a business best-seller just because it comes from a different worldview.
  • Guard time to dream and think. This may be a challenge, but it is worth it. Leading your ministry doesn’t always mean people have to always see you doing something. Being busy is not the same thing as being effective. One of the most effective things you can do is to guard time to dream, think, and pray. Nehemiah did. More importantly, Jesus did too. Schedule time on your calendar to get away by yourself as an appointment and keep it.
  • Set wise goals. Goals are an essential part of strategic thinking as a leader. Former Major League Baseball player Yogi Berra is credited as saying, “‘If you don’t know where you are going, you‘ll end up someplace else.” It’s a pretty humorous quip, but it is also saturated with truth. If you don’t set goals in your ministry, you won’t be able to guide and direct where you believe God wants you to go. So set goals, but be sure they are wise ones. Your goals should stretch you, your leaders, and your ministry, but they need to be realistic too.
  • Evaluate. Like dreaming, it is critical that leaders guard time to evaluate. While the frantic pace of ministry makes regular evaluation difficult, it is worth the time and effort. When something goes well in ministry, evaluate the reasons so you can replicate them. Also consider if the event could have even be better. Likewise, if something doesn’t go well, look for what went wrong and what can be improved for next time. Find wins in it too. Very rarely is a ministry event a total loss.
  • Include your leaders and leadership team. Don’t miss that Nehemiah took some others with him as he developed a plan. As you think, dream, and evaluate, involve others as much as you can. God has given you and your team different experiences, perspectives, and abilities for a reason. Inviting others to think strategically with you is good for you, your team, and your ministry.

Next time — Barnabas: How do leaders breathe life into their teams?

Brian Dembowczyk is the managing editor for The Gospel Project. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

Encouragement, Kids Ministry, Leadership

5 Leadership Lessons from the Bible: Peter

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How do leaders handle adversity?

Peter stood up with the Eleven, raised his voice, and proclaimed to them: “Fellow Jews and all you residents of Jerusalem, let me explain this to you and pay attention to my words.” Acts 2:14

So there was Peter at Pentecost—standing boldly before a large crowd of Jews telling them that they had killed the Messiah. What a difference 40 days had made. Or to be correct, what a difference the Holy Spirit makes! Was this the same Peter who denied Jesus three times during His arrest and trials? Afraid of a little girl’s accusations? Yet now He stood in the very city where the crowds had shouted, “Crucify Him!” and proclaimed that very Him—Jesus—to the people. No, this wasn’t the same Peter, because this was Peter empowered by the Holy Spirit.

Let’s not sugarcoat this though. Peter preached boldly under the very real possibility that he might be arrested and condemned to die. Remember that the leaders had just done that to Jesus shortly before this, so why would we think they would spare Peter from a similar fate? And yet Peter was undeterred by the adversity he faced. Now that’s leadership!

We’ve addressed opposition and failures before this, but adversity is a little different from those ideas. Adversity can certainly include opposition and failures, but it isn’t limited to them. In ministry we will experience adversity in different forms—shrinking budgets, losing leaders, even rain during an event. So what can we do when we experience adversity in our ministries? Here are five tips for when that happens:

  • Expect adversity. Especially if you are taking risks, as you should be as a leader. Adversity is going to happen, so brace yourself for it and plan for it as much as you can. For instance, you know that you will have leadership turnover—people will move, they will step down, they will leave your church. Planning for that adversity might mean always developing new leaders and a leadership pipeline to move new people into open slots on your team. Plan for adversity as much as you can and don’t allow it to frazzle you.
  • Never ever give up. Peter is a fantastic encouragement to us in this regard. As much as he messed up in the Gospels, he never gave up. He persevered. He handled adversity and kept plugging away. And that’s what you need to do as well. Don’t let adversity stop you from doing that which God has called you to do.
  • Get back up right away. This is connected to the last point but it is so critical it deserves its own point. Learn from this lesson we tell our kids when they are learning how to ride their bikes—when you fall, get right back up! Staying down opens a door to wallowing, self-pity, and despair. None of those are good for you, your leadership, or your ministry. You just learned your budget will be cut in half? Call your team together, grab your calculators, and figure out how you will make it work.
  • Read biographies. This is a good leadership tip in general, but it is especially helpful when it comes to handling adversity. Two reasons. First, reading about other people reminds you that adversity is not unique to you. We all experience it. Second, you don’t have to reinvent the wheel. Seeing how others handled adversity can give you ideas for how you can do the same.
  • Focus on what God has given you, not what you think He has withheld from you. I had to learn this lesson early in ministry when I found myself taking attendance by who was not there rather than who was there. I would find myself grumbling that more people weren’t at events, all the while missing the kids who were there! You plan an event and expect 100 to show but only 10 do? Don’t focus on the 90 in that moment—you can’t do anything for them right then anyway. But you can make a world of difference in the lives of the 10 who came. Focus on the gift God has given you.

Next time — Nehemiah: How do leaders think?

Brian Dembowczyk is the managing editor for The Gospel Project. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

Kids Ministry, Leadership

5 Leadership Lessons from the Bible: David

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David: How do leaders handle their failings?

For I am conscious of my rebellion, and my sin is always before me. Against you—​you alone—​I have sinned and done this evil in your sight. So you are right when you pass sentence; you are blameless when you judge. Psalm 51:3-4

We often think of David as one of the greatest heroes in the Bible. He was the young shepherd who defeated Goliath. He was the beloved king and ancestor of Jesus. He was the prolific writer of many of the Psalms.

But David was not perfect, of course. Actually, he was far from it—reminding us once again that everyone needs God’s gift of grace and that Jesus is the greatest and true hero.

David wrote Psalm 51 after Nathan the prophet confronted him about perhaps David’s most grievous sins—adultery with Bathsheba and murder of her husband, Uriah. David had done his best to hide these sins for about a year, but sin cannot be hidden from God. Trapped in his sin, David was broken. He confessed his sins to God and penned Psalm 51 as a prayer.

As leaders, we can learn much about how to handle our failings from David. While our failures may not be on the level as David’s, we will fail. We will sin. We will make mistakes. We will fail our leaders, our parents, our kids, and perhaps even our church. But what we do in those times will speak loudly about who we are, and more importantly about the gospel. Here are five tips to remember the next time you fail:

  • Confess your sin to God. Often what seems like it should go without saying is what needs to be said the most—like this. When your failure is born out of sin, confess that sin to God and rest in His grace, mercy, love, and forgiveness. If you are not right with God, your ministry will not flourish. So keep a short account of your sin with God.
  • Confess to others when needed. While all of our sin is ultimately against God, we often sin against others as well. Perhaps you weren’t quite honest with your pastor. Maybe you got angry at a parent or took credit for something one of your team members did. When you fail as a leader in times like this, confess your sin to God and the person you wronged. No one believes you are perfect, so don’t act like you are by never confessing failures to others. People need a kids leader they can trust—be one by being honest about your failures.
  • Learn from your failings. Treat every failure as an opportunity to learn. Wise, strong leaders learn more from their mistakes than their successes. If your failing was rooted in a sin, get underneath it and try to understand why you sinned in the first place. Why were you afraid to be honest? Why did you get mad? Pride? Perfectionism? Get to the root of the issue and let God work there. If the failing was more of a tactical issue, determine if you could have prevented the failure ahead of time or what you can change and do differently next time. This is a great place to invite others to help you evaluate.
  • Build relationships. Having quality relationships with your peers, leaders, parents, and kids is vital because relationship equity is so important when navigating failures. The more you love others, the more honest you will be with them as you deal with your failures. At the same time, the more others love you, the more they will be apt to forgive you and encourage you through them.
  • Ask at least two others to hold you accountable. Just as David needed Nathan to confront him, you need to give someone in your life permission to step in and say the hard things that need to be said. Seek two other people—ideally people who have a different view of you as a leader—and ask them to hold you accountable in your leadership and life.

Next time — Peter: How do leaders handle adversity?

Brian Dembowczyk is the managing editor for The Gospel Project. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

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Leadership Lessons from the Bible: John the Baptist

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How do leaders handle success?  

He who has the bride is the groom. But the groom’s friend, who stands by and listens for him, rejoices greatly at the groom’s voice. So this joy of mine is complete. He must increase, but I must decrease.” John 3:29-30

What is the first thing you think of when you read “John the Baptist?” Probably camel hair, locusts, and honey right? Most of us think of John as this rather odd guy in the wilderness, and we fail to grasp his importance. The last prophet before John was Malachi—400 years earlier! After 400 years of silence, John was quite a celebrity. Sure he had his quirks, but he was actually quite popular.

And then Jesus showed up and that all changed. Jesus immediately drew a following—many people turning from John to follow Him.

John’s loyal disciples struggled with this. They too were used to the attention and now it was gone. But how did John take it?

“He must increase, but I must decrease.”

John got it. He understood that God had given him a following for one reason—to point those people to Jesus.

John is a great example of humility, especially in times of success. John didn’t let his following go to his head, he remained humble and held his following with an open hand.

Can we be honest? Sometimes it is hard to stay humble in ministry. Sometimes we can let it all go to our heads and we can start celebrating ourselves instead of pointing people to Jesus. Sometimes, if we are honest, we live as if we must increase and He must decrease.

We don’t want that, of course. It can just happen that way at times. So what can we do to prevent that? Here are five tips for handling success in ministry.

  • Celebrate wins with your team. Being humble doesn’t mean ignoring wins in your ministry. When God gives your ministry a win, celebrate it with your team! God deserves the credit and your team deserves to celebrate what God did through them.
  • Make your leaders the heros. Kids ministry is certainly a team effort! Be sure to always focus on your team when celebrating wins. Make it a habit to always point to your team when someone praises something you did or something that happened in ministry. Keeping the focus on them is good for them and good for your heart.
  • Point people to God’s goodness. While it is important to point people to your team, it is more important to point them to God. Anything good that happens in your ministry is out of God’s kindness and goodness. Anything not so good that happens is under God’s sovereign control. No matter what happens, take people to God.
  • Don’t put a cap on your ministry’s potential. There is always a balance when it comes to looking at wins. A mistake in one direction is to be too critical and not celebrate wins. A mistake in the opposite direction is to think you have arrived. A healthy, humble ministry perspective is in between. Celebrate the wins, but never be content with what God has done or limit what He can do. Evaluate to find out what could have been even better and where your kids ministry goes from here.
  • Keep realistic expectations. While you always want to be pushing to see God work even more in your ministry, and while God is infinite, we have to be careful not to set unrealistic expectations for ourselves and our teams. Just because God blew your doors off at this summer’s VBS doesn’t mean He necessarily will do it next summer. Pray for it, plan for it, but set realistic, yet challenging, goals.

Next time — David: How do leaders handle their failings?

Brian Dembowczyk is the managing editor for The Gospel Project. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

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5 Leadership Lessons from the Bible

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Joshua: How do leaders handle opposition?

Joshua son of Nun and Caleb son of Jephunneh, who were among those who scouted out the land, tore their clothes and said to the entire Israelite community: “The land we passed through and explored is an extremely good land. If the Lord is pleased with us, he will bring us into this land, a land flowing with milk and honey, and give it to us. Only don’t rebel against the Lord, and don’t be afraid of the people of the land, for we will devour them. Their protection has been removed from them, and the Lord is with us. Don’t be afraid of them! ” While the whole community threatened to stone them, the glory of the Lord appeared to all the Israelites at the tent of meeting. Numbers 14:6-10

God was right. The spies saw that the land God had promised to give them after their departure from Egypt was truly as good as He had said. The land offered them plenty of room and an amazing abundance of food and resources.

But it had another abundance too—plenty of strong people living in it who would not give it up without a fight.

That is why ten of the twelve spies told the people it was a lost cause. Trying to enter the land God had promised would result in death—theirs, not the people living in it. But Joshua and Caleb had reached another conclusion. The people in the land were great, but God is greater. If they trusted God, He would provide for them.

How did the people respond to the dissenting opinion of Joshua and Caleb? They wanted to kill them. Talk about opposition!

Joshua and Caleb didn’t waver from their trust in God, despite the brutal nature of their opposition. In the end, they entered the land when the other ten spies, and all of the people who wanted to kill them were dead. Joshua and Caleb saw God’s provision up close and personal.

As ministry leaders, we will face opposition and even though it most likely won’t be life-threatening, sometimes it may feel like it. So how can we handle opposition in a way that honors God and brings Him glory? Here are five lessons about handling opposition:

  • Consider the root of the opposition. Sometimes the criticism we hear is not really the root issue we need to consider. A teacher who is critical about moving to a new curriculum may not have a problem with the new materials, but in reality feels unvalued because she helped choose the previous curriculum and was not part of the decision-making process now. In that case, sharing the vision and strengths of the new resource isn’t going to help. Try to get to the root issues of the opposition which at times may require that you simply ask someone what they are.
  • Seek wisdom and counsel from others. A good leader will consider all criticism, but that can be hard at times, especially when the person being critical is doing so in a negative and adversarial manner. Surround yourself with people you trust and give them permission to speak truth to you in love. When someone is critical or opposing you, go to this team and ask for their feedback and wisdom. There will be times when the critical person is right, even if they are sharing their criticism in the wrong way. You may need help seeing that in the heat of the moment.
  • Love and pray for those sharing criticism with you. When someone shares criticism in the right way, pray for him and thank God for his feedback and the way he shared it. Thank God that he cared enough to share criticism. When someone shares criticism in the wrong way, pray for him too! Ask God to move in his heart and your heart. Pray for God to help you love that person with grace.
  • Appeal to the gospel when defending yourself. There will be times when someone opposes you or something in your ministry and you will need to defend yourself and your ministry. Be sure to anchor your defense on the gospel. For example, if someone is critical of the curriculum you use, don’t appeal to your experience in kids ministry or how many educators support it—take that person to the gospel. Explain why that curriculum advances the gospel in and through your kids. Always take your stand on the gospel. The gospel is a hill worth dying on.
  • Know when to “walk away.” Romans 10 is incredibly helpful when it comes to managing conflict and opposition. In this verse we read that when it is possible we are to live at peace with others. That caveat is critical! It means there will be times when it is not possible because the other person does not want to live in peace. Do all you can to reconcile with the person, but recognize there may be a time when you simply have to “walk away.” That doesn’t mean you can ostracize the person, but it does mean you continue to pray for reconciliation and shower them with love and grace, yet with firmness when necessary.

Next time—John the Baptist: How do leaders handle success?

Brian Dembowczyk is the managing editor for The Gospel Project. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

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5 Leadership Lessons from the Bible

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Esther: How do leaders handle risk?

“Go and assemble all the Jews who can be found in Susa and fast for me. Don’t eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my female servants will also fast in the same way. After that, I will go to the king even if it is against the law. If I perish, I perish.” Esther 4:16

Esther could have died. Let that sink in.

Although Esther was the queen, no one—not even the queen—could approach the king without his permission first. But time was of the essence and who knew when the king would call for Esther again.

Esther’s cousin, Mordecai, had discovered an evil plot to kill all of the Jews and the only hope for God’s people rested in Esther. If she could just go to the king and plead for her people on their behalf, perhaps they would be spared from the coming catastrophe.

But how could she approach the king without being invited? What if he didn’t receive her? She could die.

With Mordecai’s encouragement, Esther decided that it was worth the risk. She called for the Jews to fast and pray for her and then she would go to the king. If she died, she died. The risk was worth it. The fate of her people was more important than her own life.

God was kind to Esther and the risk she took ended up working out for her. The king received her and she ended up saving her people.

Ministry is full of risk—at least if we are doing it right. God continually wants us to step beyond ourselves, our comfort, and our own abilities. He wants us to sacrifice and risk for His kingdom and His glory. That’s hard for many leaders to do! Here are five lessons on how we can take risks as leaders:

  • Be bold, but not foolish. You can be too cautious and never take risks in ministry or you can go to the other extreme and throw caution to the wind. Neither approach is good for a leader. We want to be bold, but we don’t want to be foolish. Take those steps of faith, but pray and plan as you do. For example, it may be bold for you to change to a new kids curriculum, but it would be foolish to make the change on a Saturday and launch the next day! So be bold and take risks, but don’t take them lightly. Learn from Esther who preceded her risk with asking her people to pray for three days.
  • Consider the risk/reward ratio. A risk may be foolish if there is little upside and quite a bit of downside. This is known as the risk/reward ratio. If the negative impact of an action far outweighs the potential benefits, you may want to pray through it some more. Esther’s risk was her own life, but her reward was the lives of all of her people. The reward far out-weighed the risk. That is why it was wise of her to take that risk. The risk/reward ratio should not be the most important factor in considering an action, but it should certainly be weighed.
  • Include your leaders and your leadership. A wise leader is going to have a great team around him or her in the first place, but this is especially important when it comes to taking risks. Don’t take on risks by yourself. You have to bring others into the decision-making process. You will need different perspectives and thoughts. You will need partners bathing the risk in prayer. And you will need others to cast the vision of the risk and guide your ministry through it. Don’t take on risk alone. Take it on as a community.
  • Trust in God. The beauty of risk is that it pushes us closer to God. Once you determine that a risk is worth taking, don’t waver from trusting in God. Even as you wisely develop plans, you still need to trust in God to work those plans out. When we trust God during a risk we take, we position ourselves to bring Him glory if the risk works out, while simultaneously to bring Him glory if it doesn’t work out from our perspective. A leader and ministry that trusts God completely cannot be shaken.
  • Go all in. This last lesson is a natural byproduct of the previous one. When we trust God completely, we will go all in. Don’t make the mistake of sticking your big toe into the pool. Dive in! If God is leading you to take a risk, take it! Be wise. Communicate the vision. Pray over the decision. Honor God in what you do leading up to the risk, and then take it. Half-hearted risk-taking communicates what it really is—a failure to trust God and follow His leading.

Next time—Joshua: How do leaders handle opposition?

Brian Dembowczyk is the managing editor for The Gospel Project. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

Kids Ministry, Leadership, Volunteers

Leadership Lessons from the Bible: Hannah

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Deeply hurt, Hannah prayed to the Lord and wept with many tears.  Making a vow, she pleaded, “Lord of Hosts, if You will take notice of Your servant’s affliction, remember and not forget me, and give Your servant a son, I will give him to the Lord all the days of his life, and his hair will never be cut.” 1 Samuel 1:10-11

Hannah simply amazes me. Here was a woman who could not have any children—which was quite a stigma in her day—and it understandably devastated her. To make matters worse, one of her husband’s other wives delighted in mocking her because of her barrenness. (Quick aside: God never permitted polygamy and every time we see it practiced in the Old Testament, it causes trouble.)

Hannah was in such pain because of her inability to have children that she went to the temple and poured out her heart to God with such an intensity that Eli the priest thought she was drunk. But it is the subject of Hannah’s prayer more than her fervency that amazes me.

If God were to give Hannah a son, she would give him back to God. And that is what happened. God gave Hannah Samuel, and she took him to the temple to serve there once he was weaned. Hannah gave God one of her heart’s greatest desires.

Hannah was a godly woman because she was a woman of prayer and Hannah was a woman of prayer because she was a godly woman. Pray fuels intimacy with God and intimacy with God fuels prayer in a beautiful symbiotic relationship.

Our leadership thrives in direct proportion to the health of our relationship with Christ. And as we learn from Hannah, prayer is a vital component of that relationship. Here are five leadership lessons on how we can thrive through prayer:

  • Pray regularly. The fuel of any relationship is communication, and a relationship with Jesus is no different. Praying regularly is vital. Having a set time to pray each day is a great start, but think of ways that you can pray more throughout your day such as when you are driving, when you are brushing your teeth, and when you are waiting in lines. Prayer can turn these rather mundane times into refreshing times with God.
  • Read Scripture first. When possible, preface your time of prayer by reading Scripture. Scripture will help you focus your time of prayer properly. Instead of praying through a man-centered lens of what you want from God, spending time in the Bible first will reorient your heart and mind to want to pursue God’s glory in your prayer.
  • Don’t confine yourself to a formula. There are several outlines designed to ensure you pray in a well-rounded way. While these can be helpful to keep in mind, do not limit yourself by them. Structure can sometimes lead to a wooden, formulaic prayer life and can hinder its authenticity. There will be times when you will simply want to pray thanking God for who He is. There may be other times when you will need to pray just confessing sin to God.  
  • Be transparent with God. Following up to the previous lesson, strive for your prayer to be transparent. Be real with God. It’s not like you can fool Him anyway! If you are upset like Hannah, share that. If you are confused, angry, happy, worried, frustrated, or whatever else, let God know.
  • Pray for others. Enjoying a vibrant prayer life and deepening your relationship with Christ will greatly grow you as a leader alone. But it is when you also pray meaningfully for your kids, kids leaders, parents, and other church leaders that your leadership will grow to the next level. Develop the habit of asking others how you can pray for them and doing it.

Brian Dembowczyk is the team leader for The Gospel Project for Kids. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

Easter, Kids Ministry, Resources, Uncategorized

The Big Picture Easter Bundle

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Easter not only provides us with the opportunity to share the gospel message with our guests, but with our regular attending kids as well. One of the greatest joys of kids ministries is seeing our kids grow and reach the point where they can respond to the gospel by trusting in Christ. And the great thing about our regular kids is that we don’t have to contain the Easter story to just one Sunday—we can spread it out over several weeks and go even deeper to help move our kids toward saving faith in Christ.

The Gospel Project for Kids team has just released a new Easter Bible study resource called The Big Picture Easter Bundle. If you currently use The Gospel Project in your ministry, you will have an Easter unit included in your Spring 2017 content. However if you do not currently use The Gospel Project, and would like to experience a gospel-centered Easter resource, this may be just what you are looking for. This five-session digital resource can be used in your preschool and grade school classes all five Sundays in April to share the compelling story of the final week of Jesus’ earthly ministry, His crucifixion, resurrection, and appearances to His disciples.

Each session is designed to last one hour and includes downloadable Bible story videos, songs, music videos, leader guides, activity pages, posters, coloring sheets, cards, and more. The Big Picture Easter Bundle includes all of that for preschool and grade school and more for just $74.99. Churches can print as many of the resources as they need for their leaders and kids, making this a one-size-fits-all resource!

The five sessions include:   

  • The Last Supper
  • Jesus’ Triumphal Entry
  • Jesus’ Crucifixion and Resurrection
  • The Emmaus Disciples
  • Jesus Appeared to the Disciples

Each of the sessions will help share the Easter story with your preschoolers and kids, with each one pointing directly to the good news of the gospel through a Christ connection. If you are looking for Easter content to share with your preschoolers and kids, our hope is that The Big Picture Easter Bundle would be a resource that you could use to show your kids God’s love made known to us in His Son, Jesus Christ.

To learn more about The Big Picture Easter Bundle, visit www.gospelproject.com/easter.

Brian Dembowczyk is the team leader for The Gospel Project for Kids. He served in local church ministry for over 16 years before coming to LifeWay. Brian earned an M.Div. from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his family live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.

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